Thursday, August 15, 2013

The War of Waiting

Alright ladies, this one is for you. And I'm tellin' it to ya straight.

I have gobs of single friends lookin' for the man of their dreams. Gobs. Fabulous, amazing, beautiful friends. Everybody is looking for love and often, as the song says, in the wrong place. It breaks my heart because I want everyone I know to experience the incredible gift of a healthy and happy marriage. I know there are lots of stories and reasons and explanations for the things people do, but I hate seeing women hurt or worse, continuing to allow men to hurt them mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically because they are afraid to let 'em go (and let's face it. The only reason you keep a guy like that around is because you're afraid of something...)

Anyways, as friend after friend and story after story has been coming my way lately, I was reminded of a post I wrote last year about this very thing. Read it. I know waiting for the right guy can feel like you are on the front lines of a war. It's painful and the stakes are high. Sacrifices must be made and the right moves are critical because they could change the entire trajectory of your future. However, puhlease believe me when I say it is worth worth hunker down and wait for the right one.

And now, the biggest question to be asked is...What to do while the war of waiting is raging? Drown your sorrows in countless hours with your girlfriends, martini in hand? Getcha a good head shot and start workin' the online dating scene? Get a Netflix subscription and pour over every romantic comedy available vicariously living through the unrealistic characters? Although I exclude Downton Abbey fanatics from this last one (lol), the answer is a resounding no.

And no.

Focus on becoming the type of person God wants you to be (which is ultimately the type of person you have to be to attract a guy worth having anyway).

Jen Smidt of Mars Hill Church in Seattle puts it best with her post "8 Things That Reveal A Woman's Character." Wow. Could not have said it better myself and such a healthy way of reflecting on your course in life no matter what your martial status is.

If you are a dude reading this post, you aren't off the hook. There's one for you too :) Read "8 Things to Convince You of a Man's Character" and see if you are someone who's worth the wait.

Monday, August 5, 2013

If you give a designer a project...

Ya know that classic children's book If You Give A Mouse A Cookie? It goes...
"If you give a mouse a cookie, he will ask for a glass of milk. When you give him the milk, he will probably ask for a straw. When's he's finished, he'll probably ask you for a napkin..."
and so on and so on it goes, one thing leading to another, until he eventually asks for a cookie again and the whole thing starts over. Yeah, I feel like I am having one of those "if you give a mouse a cookie" moments, except it's not about cookies. It's about design.

Even though I now work in ministry, I am an interior design by education and trade. I still love it and dream about it and blow countless hours looking at ideas online and planning future projects. In all that time I have noticed something "mouse-like" about myself and it's this:
If you give a designer a project, it will evitably lead to at least 20 more in this rapid, cookie-wanting like, designer snowball.
Take this Friday for instance. Our exterior entryway was in need of some major cleaning since it was starting to look a little too much like Mrs. Havisham's house from Great Expectations. As I was scrubbing the walls, door, stoop, and steps I started to think about the new plants I needed to get to replace the dead ones in the planters. For that matter, I should get a wreath for the front door to look more welcoming. Then, I contemplated painting the front door to go better with a new wreath. The door mat also needed to be replaced if I was changing the whole front door look. This project snowballed way into the night (and until 3 am the next morning) as I was doped up on my project planning high and scouring the internet for the perfect wreath.

The next day things got no better. As I found the perfect wreath... I realized it didn't really go with our current foyer. Should I redo the foyer? As I began pouring over Pinterest and other planning ideas I stumbled across this amazing photo ...
and I thought I MUST do that to our front balcony! It would look amazing! Well, it would look amazing if we had the whole house whitewashed instead of the current red brick color...

See what I mean? Interior design is a dangerous and slippery slope. Ha! Lucky for me, the brakes are often put on all my project whims by the almighty (and scarce) $. There's just never enough of it to humor all my ideas. :)

However, for those of you think that think my house is perfect, it's not... and I wanted to share some of what my vision is for it. This is what I see in my mind when I walk through the rooms... :)

Pallet wood bar facade
I would love to add wood planks under the bar in our kitchen. This is really more a matter of finding the pallet wood and time to stain/install it than money since it's a low budget item.

Subway tile backsplash
I would love to add white subway tile as a backsplash in our kitchen. Oh and I also would love to paint the cabinets white and stain our wood floors dark. HAHAHA No big projects or anything...(Oh and did I mention we haven't even bought this house yet? Haha "If you give a designer a project.." point made. Haha)

Anyways... back to my hopes and dreams... I'd like to make the sitting room across from the kitchen and dining room more of an actual living room. This is my dream sofa to add in here with an ottoman I already own reupholstered and of course some gorgeous side tables.
Speaking of reupholstery, Zach and I recently snagged this chair a neighbor discarded and I can't wait to have it redone and added to our downstairs living room. The space next to the fireplace has been empty waaaay too long!
Wall art
Already have my animals sawed in half. Just need to paint and frame.

Oh and don't get me started on all the bathroom reno I have in my head...There are also plenty of odds and ends here and there I want to do - add a deer trophy here, some frames there, window box planters on the porch, etc. The projects are seriously never-ending, but I guess that's what a designer loves most- the ability to create and then recreate. It's a beautiful yet vicious cycle. :)

So, what's the next project you wanna do in your home? Don't ask me unless you are ready for what happens when you "give a designer a project"! :)

Saturday, August 3, 2013


Recently a friend of mine introduced me to the genius of Marryokes. What's a Marryoke you ask? Watch this to find out.

Yes folks, that's right. A wedding music video with all your family and friends. Totally brill, totally hilarious, and totally amazing. Wish this existed when we got married! For all my single friends out there... will someone pretty please hire them for your wedding so I can participate in one? Thanks. :)

Happy Saturday! Haha!

Thursday, August 1, 2013

The Life of Lindsay

It's been over a month now and it still hasn't sunk in that's she's gone. I honestly... am just at a loss as to how to process it. I've been to her memorial services, gone through her things, have started making plans without her, but it's still just so so SO weird. And surreal. And shocking. And as much as possible, I want to avoid being faced with the truth that I will never talk to her, or spend a holiday with her, or go on a adventure with her this side of heaven and that some big pieces of my life with never ever be the same.

Lindsay's memorial services were actually two weeks ago in Florida. Thank you to everyone who came out to celebrate Lindsay's life. It was so fun to see everyone and catch up. I just only wish Lindsay had been there to enjoy all the people she loved so much gathered in one place. She would have LOVED that! Anyways, for those of you that missed it, here is a video my BIL Steve, parents, and I put together to tell Lindsay's story. Hopefully it will be a blessing to you and encourage you to make a difference with the time God have given you here on earth.

Miss you Lindz. Hope heaven is rockin' your socks off!